Why even care?

[Comfort Eagle]

Do any of you ever ask yourself just why do/should you feel awkward or weird about being into tickling? It seems to be a recurring them of "it's different, by and large the majority won't understand", "mainstream acknowledgment is always great and we could sure use more positive mentions", "it'll freak people out" blah blah so on and so forth. Ever just wonder to yourself why?

I haven't for year. Almost everyone that knows me knows I like tickling. And I've never once had any reaction more negative than "that's kind of weird" followed by the subject being dropped. All throughout high school, I tickled. A lot of different girls. Daily. And never caught flack for it. Ever. No "Oh God how weird is the tickle guy over there?". No "Holy hell are you ever demented!". Nothing remotely similar to that. Hell, the one girl who thought it was weird earlier eventually started letting me tickle her foot (very briefly, but still) during class. I ended up getting more girls into liking it by doing so.

What's more, in the grade below me, one of the coolest guys in the grade had an open foot fetish, and girls were asking him to tickle their feet. Right in the middle of class. 4 or 5 different girls got tickled, while 3 others were just watching and giggling. The only reason they didn't get in on it themselves was because they had on shoes and socks, whereas the other girls had on flip flops. Here he was doing the same thing most people on here dream of doing, and rather than being made fun of for it, the women were genuinely thrilled at having someone play with their feet.

That's been years ago, and today I tickle girls daily, get tickled now and then, and never heard a negative remark about it. So what is it? Why are so many of you self conscious about your tickle kink? Is it the sexual aspect of it? Are you self conscious already and tickle fetish just adds to that? Am I just amazingly fucking charismatic and am able to pull off something that really is incredibly weird? Why do you feel so weird about it? I am curious.

 

[simulated]

🙄

 

[Comfort Eagle]

What? 😎

I'm serious though, it seems like having others know is a big issue with a lot of posters here, and while I can understand not being keen on having people aware you crank the souja boy to our fine clips section, a general fear here I've noticed for years is "Holy crap they know I like tickling!!!", and I really can't understand the shame or humiliation behind it.

 

[ticklishmikey]

Omg. What is with these questions tonight? Lol Just kidding. I just got finished in a rant about foot fetish. But this one about tickling.... Hell I don't know. Maybe because in the back of our minds it seems so silly or something. I mean. Tickling is pretty universal, and there are very few people who don't enjoy a good tickle fight. Maybe you're right and it is the sexual thing because most people associate it with a form of play, while others get off on it... Maybe that's it. Also keep in mind, not every one is accepting as those people were.... Plus... every now and again people... get very lucky in life. Lol

 

[Excess]

It's not so much about people knowing that they like it as it is people knowing how MUCH they like it. That is what scares people.

 

[ticklishmikey]

It's not so much about people knowing that they like it as it is people knowing how MUCH they like it. That is what scares people.

Well said

 

[simulated]

What? 😎

I'm serious though, it seems like having others know is a big issue with a lot of posters here, and while I can understand not being keen on having people aware you crank the souja boy to our fine clips section, a general fear here I've noticed for years is "Holy crap they know I like tickling!!!", and I really can't understand the shame or humiliation behind it.

If someone asks me straight up, I'll say sure, I am into it. If I'm dating someone, I'll tell them, because it's an important part of my sexuality. However, I'm not going to go broadcast it to people. If you love anal sex, you don't volunteer to random people that you enjoy taking it in the ass; it's inappropriate.

I don't tickle people in general who don't know about my interests because of the fact that tickling is sexual in nature to me. It's unfair for me to use someone to, I guess, "fulfill my needs" without their consent. If you were really into breasts, do you think it would be fine if you went around groping people?

And I posted 🙄 because I find your high school story highly embellished. A large segment of the high school population is almost universally petty and cruel.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

it's just not something i feel everyone needs to know. its none of their business.

on a side note: goth your sig made me think there was really a bug on my screen and i hit it ... damn it.

 

[Jackalx33]

Yeah like mr. ticklegothgirls if you can kindly let me some what skeptical. Like my opinion is well you had no creepy look or attitude to ya. And well I am one of those like terrified about letting it be known by me. This not good seeing i am looking to go into the filming industry and well yeah i am going off. and again thank you simulated, excess, and ticklishmike for your input on my other thread, but hmmm I guess it is some kind of mental fear of the whole world shunning you in an insant. Well that is with me and ticklegothgirls you seem highly freakin lucky then!

 

[Comfort Eagle]

If someone asks me straight up, I'll say sure, I am into it. If I'm dating someone, I'll tell them, because it's an important part of my sexuality. However, I'm not going to go broadcast it to people. If you love anal sex, you don't volunteer to random people that you enjoy taking it in the ass; it's inappropriate.

I don't tickle people in general who don't know about my interests because of the fact that tickling is sexual in nature to me. It's unfair for me to use someone to, I guess, "fulfill my needs" without their consent. If you were really into breasts, do you think it would be fine if you went around groping people?

Oh no, it wasn't the "I walked up to people at the bus stop and tickled them and ran away", I was familiar with all these people. Though I get your point in regards to tickling being a private sex fetish, mine doesn't run quite that deep, so that's probably why.

And I posted 🙄 because I find your high school story highly embellished. A large segment of the high school population is almost universally petty and cruel.

Well, why? It's that unbelievable to you that someone would be able to pull this off?

on a side note: goth your sig made me think there was really a bug on my screen and i hit it ... damn it.

Haha, that happens a lot.

Yeah like mr. ticklegothgirls if you can kindly let me some what skeptical. Like my opinion is well you had no creepy look or attitude to ya.

I'm a bit confused, you're skeptical about whether or not any of this is true, or you think me not being weird helped me pull it off?

 

[Perduabo]

Do any of you ever ask yourself just why do/should you feel awkward or weird about being into tickling? It seems to be a recurring them of "it's different, by and large the majority won't understand", "mainstream acknowledgment is always great and we could sure use more positive mentions", "it'll freak people out" blah blah so on and so forth. Ever just wonder to yourself why?

I haven't for year. Almost everyone that knows me knows I like tickling. And I've never once had any reaction more negative than "that's kind of weird" followed by the subject being dropped. All throughout high school, I tickled. A lot of different girls. Daily. And never caught flack for it. Ever. No "Oh God how weird is the tickle guy over there?". No "Holy hell are you ever demented!". Nothing remotely similar to that. Hell, the one girl who thought it was weird earlier eventually started letting me tickle her foot (very briefly, but still) during class. I ended up getting more girls into liking it by doing so.

What's more, in the grade below me, one of the coolest guys in the grade had an open foot fetish, and girls were asking him to tickle their feet. Right in the middle of class. 4 or 5 different girls got tickled, while 3 others were just watching and giggling. The only reason they didn't get in on it themselves was because they had on shoes and socks, whereas the other girls had on flip flops. Here he was doing the same thing most people on here dream of doing, and rather than being made fun of for it, the women were genuinely thrilled at having someone play with their feet.

That's been years ago, and today I tickle girls daily, get tickled now and then, and never heard a negative remark about it. So what is it? Why are so many of you self conscious about your tickle kink? Is it the sexual aspect of it? Are you self conscious already and tickle fetish just adds to that? Am I just amazingly fucking charismatic and am able to pull off something that really is incredibly weird? Why do you feel so weird about it? I am curious.

I honestly don't feel weird about it in the least. I am completely open about my tickling/foot fetish, I don't wear it on my sleeve but I will talk about it if the subject is brought up.

The main way I look at it is this; why do I care what a pack of strangers think about me? And if they are that close-minded and fail to realize its no more different than being turned on by legs, ass, whatever than do I really want to waste my time in their company?

 

[dvnc]

Why care? For folks who've not adjusted to a) the fact that we're in number in this world, or b) that those not presently interested may not object to it at all (especially if they get theirs, too), there's difficulty understanding sometimes.

Some folks are just truly, completely plain vanilla. Ordinary. Some of us are close. Nothin' wrong with that.

Just different.

Some folks sweat different, hence they care.

I don't. Then again, I ain't ever thought of myself as normal. I don't plan to start now, either. 😉

 

[prettygirl619]

i can understand where you are coming with from this post. I have thought about how its silly to be ashamed to admit you love tickling , but its such a natural bonding between humans and its enjoyed by many, however does scares some people, but its like why should you even have to define yourself with any title of having a tickle fetish. just tickle and be tickled.

i do see where it comes into an issue with the sexual effect of tickling and having to explain to your partner that you want them to bond you and tickle you sensless or vice versa, then the conversation need take place. I guesss life is just unexplainable and everyone should just tickle everyday.

haha sorry this post is kinda rambled just highh on pot 🙂

 

[LD_Tickler]

Quick interjection, the foot fetish is so common and so widely known of that it is completely non-representative of the 'secret fetish' experience.

 

[♡AimLEE♡]

I also want to add in from my post on this topic:

I find it to be very thrilling to have a secret. I like being able to do my own thing and not have to tell a soul about it unless I decide to.

I mean if all my friends knew I think it would cut back on A LOT of tickle fights. They would think it would be turning me on and so the topic of tickling would pretty much be ignored and I don't want that.

If my family knew I went out to meet people for tickle sessions or even if they knew I was planning to go to NEST they would never let that happen ... and also probably find it really WEIRD and act awkward around me for the rest of my life... they are just like that.

So I like having the freedom and choice to tell who I think should know and not just go around displaying my love for tickling. I think it makes it hell of a lot more fun.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

It's probably more or less different with each person who feels self-concious of it. Tickling can be sexual for me also and all I've known it to be is playful growing up, so that was a bit of a shocker for me. I mean, we have gatherings more or less centered around our intrigue with tickling. That can easily be viewed as odd in peoples' eyes who aren't as into it as we are.

That also could cause apprehension at being overtly comfortable.

 

[Mephistopheles]

I keep to myself on personal issues. I don't think people have the right to know.

 

[ticklishmikey]

I also want to add in from my post on this topic:

I find it to be very thrilling to have a secret. I like being able to do my own thing and not have to tell a soul about it unless I decide to.

I mean if all my friends knew I think it would cut back on A LOT of tickle fights. They would think it would be turning me on and so the topic of tickling would pretty much be ignored and I don't want that.

If my family knew I went out to meet people for tickle sessions or even if they knew I was planning to go to NEST they would never let that happen ... and also probably find it really WEIRD and act awkward around me for the rest of my life... they are just like that.

So I like having the freedom and choice to tell who I think should know and not just go around displaying my love for tickling. I think it makes it hell of a lot more fun.

Another good point.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

For me, for years I was super insecure about it, and kept it a big secret for that reason. I don't really know why...

But lately it's changed - and rather than not wanting people to know because I'm ashamed of it, I don't want people to know because it's something that's MINE. It's special and fun and kinda sexy to have a dirty little secret. I'm much more relaxed about being tickled in front of my friends. Where it used to be embarassing and uncomfortable, now it's fun and a little exciting, because only I (and potentially the ler) know what I'm getting out of it.

I'd never want my non-tickling world and my tickling world to meld -- no thanks. Tickling is mine and mine alone. I don't share well 😛

 

[Jackalx33]

ok to make my self clear ticklegothgirls, That is what I have assumed hence why I was so skeptical. Sorry for that. But know I think there may be levels to this. And well no one is getting hurt in the end of all this. Also we all seem to know the boundaries.

 

[Bugman]

I don't go around advertising the fact,but i really don't care who knows either.I wasted too many years worrying about it.🙂

 

[dvnc]

Quick interjection, the foot fetish is so common and so widely known of that it is completely non-representative of the 'secret fetish' experience.

Bondage is widely known, too, and isn't a proper fetish, yet people can bug out about that (no offense, bugman 😉. Foot fetishism seems, to me, to cause MORE social stigma, not less. Tickling is usually, at worst, in the category or weird or strange, and let's face it - if someone can't accept that aspect of you, whether shared or not, do you REALLY wanna be hangin' wit' 'em?

Tough when it's family, mind ya, but I know many who avoid family like the plague, already, and they're vanilla...

Observations, anyway.

 

[Excess]

I'd never want my non-tickling world and my tickling world to meld -- no thanks. Tickling is mine and mine alone. I don't share well 😛

Exactly. It's the world's theory. You gotta keep your worlds separate, otherwise the WORLDS WILL COLLIDE AND DESTROY EVERYTHING AS YOU KNOW IT!

 

[jaba]

Am I just amazingly fucking charismatic and am able to pull off something that really is incredibly weird?.

Probably.......😛

if she's in to you, you'd be suprised at your quirks that are acceptable and sometimes even encouraged.....I used to be suprised, but not any more.

I had a vanilla ladyfriend who recently left the state for a lucrative job offer. Perfectly normal lady, who discovered she loved having pie and ice cream occasionally licked from her feet while we lounged on the sofa watching sunday nite indie movies....

who would have known we both harbored a dark, dirty, deviant "indie film fetish", had no one dared ask?....


she told me she would really miss the tickle sessions from the only "wierdo" in her life.....imagine the sadness of having only one weirdo in your life?

be a good friend, and your friends will accept you as packaged.....and as Dave seems to suggest, who cares about what everyone else thinks about you anyway?

 

[BigBrownEyes]

I agree with the orgiginal poster's reasoning. The best thing to do would be to just be open about your passion for tickling, and whatever else. People will raise their eyebrows for a moment then just come about their usual business.

I knew someone in grad school who was very open about being heavily into porn, having a foot fetish, liking bondage, and later admitted to having a tickle fetish. I wish I could be that open about it. But I need to get to know someone before I can just blurt that stuff out.