Why is it so hard to meet a damn girl on here?

[dvnc]

well lets see we talk alot about tickling and how we enjoy it but no chance of meeting anyone here unless at nest then that really sucks

I didn't meet my lady at NEST. Met her in California at a West Coast Gathering. There actually are many event going on in the US. Of ticklephiles, we have the least justification for the "can't meet anyone" argument.

The "can't afford to get out to that event" argument works better.

BigJim, you get out and meet others of us, you mad rascal.

 

[BigJim]

BigJim, you get out and meet others of us, you mad rascal.

lol It was supposed to be self-deprecatory humour, oh shiny one.

 

[guitarman]

I only became active on here a few months ago, and i'd be lying if I said i joined without the slight possibility of meeting a girl. But I've come to realise that thats not what its about. Its great just chatting to people who share the same interest. Whether they be male or female. And if something does come up then thats a bonus.

Theres so many nice people on this forum. Get to know them. Dont have one goal in the back of your mind. This place is legendary!!

Im a bit pissed and buzzing for the game tomorrow lol. But legendary is definitely the word!!!!!

 

[Adam]

Referring to them as "damn girls" isn't gonna help, man. I am lucky enough to have experienced success here and on Tickle Theater. Now this doesn't happen to everyone. But I will tell you this... be respectful and you stand a chance.

 

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DAMNED DIRTY GIRLS!

 

[TropicThunder]

DAMNED DIRTY GIRLS!

You called?

 

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You called?

Oh.



I guess.


You wanna... I don't know...

You want some McDonald's?

 

[TropicThunder]

Oh.



I guess.


You wanna... I don't know...

You want some McDonald's?

Not a chance. 😛

 

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Not a chance. 😛

Aw!

Mean. Well, I'm out of ideas. I didn't think this one through. 🙁

 

[asutickler]

well lets see we talk alot about tickling and how we enjoy it but no chance of meeting anyone here unless at nest then that really sucks

That's totally not true. I've dated several girls from this site, and I only met one at a gathering.

 

[Cokecan]

This is the Internet, where men are men, women are men, and the kids are FBI agents.

 

[TropicThunder]

That's totally not true. I've dated several girls from this site, and I only met one at a gathering.

^this true.

the first guy I ever met on the TMF, I met on the personals. it was awesome.

the second guy was someone I PM'd because I was visiting his area.

then I went to a munch and met my whole crazy TMF family.

 

[lisa22]

i like the thread - i agree with a lot of the advice here. i don't think anyone has to have zero expectations about ever meeting someone on the forum. probably a good number of us are on here with the hope to do just that. so far i've met two people from the forum in person, and one of them just turned into a very good friend. the other one was a tickle partner for a while.

the thing is, you want to be absolutely 100 percent positive the face on the other side of the computer is not going to hurt you. and you can't be 100 percent positive. so if i start feeling pressured by someone to meet, especially if they are offering to travel to get to me - which is incredibly nice of them and flattering - but if i start feeling that pressure and i'm still uncertain about the person i probably won't agree to meet. there's also a ton less pressure if you're living in the same location - you can agree to get coffee or something and if there aren't any sparks you can say 'well, it was nice to meet you. bye.' if they've traveled all the way to get to you there are going to be some expectations. so my advice would be to ease off the pressure. if you can tell them that meeting doesn't entail expectations that you are going to tickle them - that you will just meet and see how things go from there - chances of getting someone to meet in person are much higher.

now, can someone explain to me what is going on between the canadians? 🙂

 

[Cokecan]

now, can someone explain to me what is going on between the canadians? 🙂

We're taking over. Slowly. And politely. Just like how we own your entertainment industry right now.

 

[sasaxrah]

OK, you *really* want to know why? Here's my theory.

You posted this in a thread called "NEST questions" that was closed due to negativity. Negativity you helped to start:

Hi all, wondering if anyone knows how many people r going to nest this year. i went a year or two ago and was disappointed at the small number of people there. Plus, the small number of females there. Plus, the small number of attractive females there. Plus, the small number of females there willing to talk/tickle with me. Think that covers it. Any girls want to room together? ha

( http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=175829 )

As people pointed out in that thread, this was a really douchey thing to post. You rubbed people the wrong way. Does every girl here know you posted that? Probably not. But I remember you from the thread, and anyone who does a quick search of threads you have started will easily find it. If a woman is smart, she'll look into the posting history of a potential friend.

You also rudely posted this in a personals thread another guy posted:

nobody wants to meet you

You've posted your own personals... I don't I know why you need to be so rude to this guy either. Another douchey move.

Sorry women are not flocking to some rude guy who thinks girls at NEST are ugly. There are plenty of girls on the forum, but we get to be a little discriminating because there are far more guys. You rub me the wrong way, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

 

[Carsomyr]

Eh, I think most has been said already, but whatever, I'll toss my 0.02 in here anyways. xD Basically, you are a guy. With a penis. This means that odds are stacked against you from the get-go. Allegedly the guy-to-girl ratio is pretty bad here; it's something that I honestly haven't noticed personally though, but whatever, maybe that just means you should take my advise. 😉 Or don't, because most advise I have involve either drinking liquid A or setting fire to object B, or mixing liquid A and object B together to make explosives

But seriously, my advice would be to just drop the expectations, because signing up on the forum doesn't automatically entitle you to anything. Sign on here to have fun, and don't be horrified at the thought of maybe making some MALE friends as well. 🙂 A lot of guys seem to be here to either just lurk and wank it (nothing wrong with that) or to PM women like crazy in hopes of "getting sum tickls", and as a woman I can imagine you generally don't get much in terms of rewarding interaction out of the latter because, well, those people can get real' creepy real' fast... But if you actually post for a bit (think of it as trying to "mingle") and act like a reasonable, kind and sincere person, then people will begin to recognize you and feel more comfortable with you - women included.

Trust me, it actually works. 😀 And you don't have to be a dashing looker either, because at least from my experience, people here mainly judge you by the content of your character. Shit, I mean I don't only live on the wrong continent to have good chances of meeting someone, but I also live in what for ticklephiles would be known as the barren wasteland of Third World Sweden - where even the fetishists are fucking vanilla (seriously, I used to post on a Swedish tickling forum for a bit, but after I hinted I had a sadistic streak some random guy suddenly compared me to Hitler), and to top it all off I'm no Robert Pattinson either... but even I have managed to meet a whooping two TMF'ers during my first year here. Both were ladies, and I've also had other women expressing an interest in meeting up one day - not necessarily for tickling, at least not in all cases, but just to hang out and have fun, and as far as I'm concerned that's really awesome too! 😀

I'll actually meet my third TMF'er sometime in July. That's a guy though, and we just intend to get drunk and wreack havoc! But that brings me to my final point: I think girls will be less scared of meeting up with you if they know that you have met other people from the forum, and if they know that those meetings ended well. So go out to a Munch or a gathering; even if it's a complete sausage-fest it doesn't have to be a waste of time. Again, maybe you'll make a new friend or two - which would just be fabulastic - but at the very least it gives people a chance to become more familiar (i.e. comfortable) with you. 🙂

now, can someone explain to me what is going on between the canadians? 🙂

They are Canadian, there is nothing to explain!

 

[TropicThunder]

OK, you *really* want to know why? Here's my theory.

You posted this in a thread called "NEST questions" that was closed due to negativity. Negativity you helped to start:

( http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=175829 )

As people pointed out in that thread, this was a really douchey thing to post. You rubbed people the wrong way. Does every girl here know you posted that? Probably not. But I remember you from the thread, and anyone who does a quick search of threads you have started will easily find it. If a woman is smart, she'll look into the posting history of a potential friend.

You also rudely posted this in a personals thread another guy posted:


You've posted your own personals... I don't I know why you need to be so rude to this guy either. Another douchey move.

Sorry women are not flocking to some rude guy who thinks girls at NEST are ugly. There are plenty of girls on the forum, but we get to be a little discriminating because there are far more guys. You rub me the wrong way, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

Ha! I actually remember seeing that post about the NEST thing! Thank you for pointing that out to me! I thought that was completely rude and inconsiderate. Especially considering how many people I know who do attend NEST, have a fucking blast, and are sexy as all hell. (Yes, I'm referring to ALL of you!)

 

[Angel77]

I know I would feel more comfortable meeting someone who I was friends with first, with "friendly" activities planned, like going out for a few drinks, Dave and Buster's for some fun and games, stuff like that, instead of meeting for a "tickling session" right off of the bat. Maybe it might happen later depending on the vibe but it kind of takes the pressure off a bit if you don't meet strictly for that, unless of course that's what you want to do.

Sure, we all share a common fetish but a lot of people might not be "tickle on the first date" folks?

 

[herts tickler]

i find it hard to meet women on here because i have 6 noses.

 

[poopies]

Did you try explaining to the women how big your penis is? Maybe if you let them know what a huge, monstrous, penis you have, you would get more positive responses.

If they don't respond, keep trying! Nobody likes a quitter, and this is especially true with women. Keep sending them messages (don't forget to reiterate how massive your penis is) until they do respond. If they respond negatively and seem agitated, don't become discouraged. Simply send another message, perhaps with a photograph of your penis this time. You see, some women are skeptics. Many men use this technique and it generally works, but some lie about the size of their penis and some women have grown skeptical. They may have been burned by men with tiny penises claiming to be well endowed in the past, so they might need some visual evidence first.

Now sometimes the woman will act as though she is really upset, and complains to moderators about all your well-meaning messages, and you may get banned or blocked. Again, don't get discouraged, and certainly don't give up! They are testing you. A woman needs to how badly you want her and that you're always going to be there for her. Blocking you or having you banned is their way of subtly letting you know that. There's no better way to show them your love, admiration, and respect by making a new screen-name and contacting her again. Women love to be stalked and preyed upon, as evidenced in "Every Breath You Take" by The Police. Would millions of women love Sting and this song if this wasn't the case? I doubt it.

In conclusion, follow my two simple rules and you'll have so many women so far down your pants, you'll have to like... buy a bigger pair of pants or something. In case you've forgotten, these rules are:

1) Describe your giant penis.
2) Never give up!

Good luck, and godspeed!

 

[Angel77]

Did you try explaining to the women how big your penis is? Maybe if you let them know what a huge, monstrous, penis you have, you would get more positive responses.

If they don't respond, keep trying! Nobody likes a quitter, and this is especially true with women. Keep sending them messages (don't forget to reiterate how massive your penis is) until they do respond. If they respond negatively and seem agitated, don't become discouraged. Simply send another message, perhaps with a photograph of your penis this time. You see, some women are skeptics. Many men use this technique and it generally works, but some lie about the size of their penis and some women have grown skeptical. They may have been burned by men with tiny penises claiming to be well endowed in the past, so they might need some visual evidence first.

Now sometimes the woman will act as though she is really upset, and complains to moderators about all your well-meaning messages, and you may get banned or blocked. Again, don't get discouraged, and certainly don't give up! They are testing you. A woman needs to how badly you want her and that you're always going to be there for her. Blocking you or having you banned is their way of subtly letting you know that. There's no better way to show them your love, admiration, and respect by making a new screen-name and contacting her again. Women love to be stalked and preyed upon, as evidenced in "Every Breath You Take" by The Police. Would millions of women love Sting and this song if this wasn't the case? I doubt it.

In conclusion, follow my two simple rules and you'll have so many women so far down your pants, you'll have to like... buy a bigger pair of pants or something. In case you've forgotten, these rules are:

1) Describe your giant penis.
2) Never give up!

Good luck, and godspeed!

Leave it to you.....

Persistence when paired with a Bob Ross costume? Irresistible.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

I'm sorry if this sounds like a really bad burn, but I added you as a friend and you never accepted me. That does make it hard to meet a girl right? Hopefully you've been busy and that is why you haven't accepted. I added you because I'm a nice and I thought maybe we could chat. I thought the info on your profile sounded cool.

 

[Mitchell]

Steve, a couple of other things, if I may.

Threads like this might cause a woman to look, and not feel very favorable. "Damn girl" isnt exactly a good starting line.

Also, I've found that generally, when one is looking hard for love, especially a specific type of love, in a community, as relatively small as this (I know this is a big community of almost 100,000, but I mean in relation to the entire world at large) it usually doesnt happen. A lot of times, if one just relaxes, and allows themselves to just be themselves, good things will happen.

Another similarity: Think, for example, if you weren't into tickling, and you just decided to enter the dating world, to find a vanilla partner, without looking for someone into a specific fetish. You put personal ads in newspapers, or on Match.com, and either didnt find anyone at all, or went out with all the wrong girls at first, for five months. What would you do? Give up, and say "I cant find a damn girl", or, keep trying for a year, two, or three, until you did find a girl? My guess would be the latter.

I have confidence that if you keep looking, you will find what you seek.

Mitch

 

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I'm sorry if this sounds like a really bad burn, but I added you as a friend and you never accepted me. That does make it hard to meet a girl right? Hopefully you've been busy and that is why you haven't accepted. I added you because I'm a nice and I thought maybe we could chat. I thought the info on your profile sounded cool. If you don't consider me attractive, well poo on you.

Maybe he considers you TOO attractive, and thus, he is put off because he feels inadequate?

Why did you have to go and make him feel inadequate!?!?

 

[porcelaindoll2]

Maybe he considers you TOO attractive, and thus, he is put off because he feels inadequate?

Why did you have to go and make him feel inadequate!?!?

I didn't mean to do that. I just saw what he wrote about nest and I put it. I just deleted the last sentence because I don't want to make him feel bad.