Why the hell are women so damned fickle?

[VMANDUDE]

Okay, so I had a date on sunday. It went GREAT, me and the girl hit it off so

freakin well it was unbelieveable. Turned out I shouldnt have believed it. She

even texted me later that night and said " thanks for a great day " and

ranted about how much fun she had on her facebook. We set up a 2nd date

for wednesday night. We talk monday, everything is fine. we talk

tuesday....she suddenly cancels the date, and says that her family needs her

help, so we'd have to reschedule. that was fine, understandable, so it was

whatever. we talked tuesday, everything was fine. wednesday we talk, and

she has to get off the phone for a little while, after i tried to reschedule the

date, to which i got no answer. an hour later there is a HUGE rant on her

facebook about somebody who didnt need anyone to be happy, something or

another. i texted her, she said some guy pissed her off. i assumed it was one

of her other friends. little while later im deleted from her facebook. i call her,

no answer. i text her, no answer. i text/call her roommate, no answer. i

message her on facebook and readd her. get rejected and no answer. i spent

the rest of wednesday calling/texting her, finally sending her a message on

the website we met on. no answer to the calls or texts, but today i check

the website and she says to leave her alone or shes calling to police for

harrassment. WTF?!?!?! everything was FINE until she turned on me....i dont

understand what in the fuck i could have done or said that made her

suddenly refuse to talk to me.....and she, nor her roommate will tell me WTF

it was. i just dont fucking get it. she even told me she liked me......so what

the fuck happened?!?!?!? damnit this pisses me off. i just dont understand.

 

[AphxA]

maybe her ex boyfriend came back into the picture?

 

[VMANDUDE]

possibly, i have no idea. all i know is one minute everything was fine, next, she hates me. it really pisses me off.

 

[venray]

Tell me....did you use vmandude as your screen name on the site you met her on? If so, she may have googled it and found out what other sites you visit...

 

[VMANDUDE]

i wish that could be it, but it isnt. number one, i used a completely different name, number two, she knows full well of my love for tickling. thats something i dont hide when it comes to potential girlfriends......im not going to put myself through the torment so many others do, of getting with somebody, falling in love, and that worrying for months if that person will accept their fetish.....fuck that, im up front about it, if they dont like it, fuck em, they aint worth my time.

 

[venray]

I got nothin then dude, unless someone else on facebook said something to her to scare her off...

Unless she feels like telling you, you will never know, so dont dwell on it....she obviously isnt the right girl.....

 

[VMANDUDE]

thats what im most afraid happened. possibly my ex looked her up to create more hell in my life, and keep me from being happy. i wouldnt put it past the bitch, all the shit she put me through. ugh

 

[venray]

Dont let it throw ya....

 

[rhiannon]

Sounds like she most definitely talked to someone about you - be it your ex, friends of her, whatever. Only other people can make someone turn around on you so completely.

You definitely tried to reach her a little too much afterwards though. Maybe you started that too early?

 

[VMANDUDE]

Sounds like she most definitely talked to someone about you - be it your ex, friends of her, whatever. Only other people can make someone turn around on you so completely.

You definitely tried to reach her a little too much afterwards though. Maybe you started that too early?

i dont know, i didnt start the frantic calling or texting until after she had deleted me.....so whatever did this, happened before i started that.

 

[usgrant]

They make the highs higher and the lows more frequent __Nietzsche...Women speak two languages, one of which is verbal__ Shakespeare...Their is evil in the best of men and good in the evilest of men, it just takes a woman to bring it out.

 

[Angel77]

Well, whatever the reason is/was, it doesn't sound like this was meant to be. Try dusting your shoulders off and move along to something better. 🙂

 

[texastickler]

Don't feel bad VMAN. I scared off a wife just by loving her. I have learned something in my life, just take what comes and keep moving. We can't control what come at us in life, but we can control how we react to those things. Good luck buddy.

 

[Master Baiter]

You need to break into her apartment and get to the bottom of this shit.

 

[Libertine]

The female mind is a mystery to females themselves, so don't even try to understand it. Just thank god for the fact that 99% of the time your feelings are based on your thoughts, rather than the reverse, or female arrangement of the brain, in which their 'thoughts', such as they are, are based on their feelings.

Women are fickle because they can be, same as very wealthy men.

Find yourself another one.

 

[john getty]

Be happy you found out this early before you started buying her shit.

 

[vladtickleman22]

Sounds like she had her head firmly planted in her ass. If she heard something about you from someone else. The very least she should have done is talk to you about it. Especially if that info came from someone she doesn't even know. Obviously she wasn't worth giving the time of day to. Move on.

 

[Dave Pavet]

Welcome to the club!!!

 

[sasaxrah]

For future reference, if after one date a girl sends a really clear message, like say, a deletion of friend status on facebook... That's pretty darn clear. Who knows what you did, didn't do, or whatever. Doesn't even really matter. Calling and texting incessantly can be perceived by harassment and sorry, after one date, you're not owed anything. It'd be nice if we lived in a world where after one date we all got a clear idea of where we stand, but we don't, and it's perfectly within the dating game to cease contact without explanation. People are allowed to change their mind, whether it be logical or reasonable or not. You don't want to develop a stalker reputation by not taking such a big freaking hint. Just let it go. There's someone out there who will be compatible with you after 2 or 3 dates, or 2 or 3 years, or 2 or 3 decades. This girl wasn't right, and whatever happened, it's over.

 

[Morpheus72]

i call her, no answer. i text her, no answer. i text/call her roommate, no answer. i

message her on facebook and readd her. get rejected and no answer. i spent

the rest of wednesday calling/texting her, finally sending her a message on

the website we met on. no answer to the calls or texts, but today i check

the website and she says to leave her alone or shes calling to police for

harrassment.

This bit here tells me you probably gave the impression as being too needy or desperate for her. Chill out next time, enjoy the company, and stop worrying about the longer-term so much. Yeah, she said she liked you, but with women, you have to read the actions, not the words. As to why women are fickle - Lib nailed that. They can be.

Dave

 

[Coup de Grace]

Someone definitely had to say something to her. Nobody inexplicably makes a complete 180 without cause. It might be one of her lonely girlfriends that doesn't like to see anyone happy but herself.

I kind of had the same thing happen to me. I met this chick at a Department store and things were all good and for whatever reason, she refused to even speak to me. I was strange. Even though is was SEVERAL years ago, I'd still like to know what the hell happened to make her change her mind.

 

[BellybTickler]

Have a brew brother, best not to bother with her if she turns this fast. Y'all find another 🙂 meanwhile, sit back and enjoy the taste of a tall, cool budweiser.

 

[Adam]

I agree with what people have been saying about not pursuing it any further. I totally understand you wishing to get to the bottom of it, and she definitely should have talked to you about it instead of being so cold, but it's not really worth the trouble in the long run. The good thing is that it was only one date, and since you are seeing firsthand how she thoughtlessly handles situations such as this, you are saving yourself a world of hurt down the road. One of these days, you're going to meet the right young lady and forget all about this one. But again, I do feel for you. It's a rotten thing to shut someone out like that when they have no idea why it is happening.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

To be honest, she probably didn't like you from the start, and would rather say, "Oh yeah, I had fun. A second date? Uh..sure!" because she wasn't sure how to say no thanks without hurting your feelings. Granted, the way she went about it was confusing, and it would have been better to just be honest from the gate, but regardless, my bet is that she never planned on going out with you a second time anyway.

No worries. You don't want somebody that doesn't want you anyway. Keep on keepin' on 🙂

 

[MrMacphisto]

For future reference, if after one date a girl sends a really clear message, like say, a deletion of friend status on facebook... That's pretty darn clear. Who knows what you did, didn't do, or whatever. Doesn't even really matter. Calling and texting incessantly can be perceived by harassment and sorry, after one date, you're not owed anything. It'd be nice if we lived in a world where after one date we all got a clear idea of where we stand, but we don't, and it's perfectly within the dating game to cease contact without explanation. People are allowed to change their mind, whether it be logical or reasonable or not. You don't want to develop a stalker reputation by not taking such a big freaking hint. Just let it go. There's someone out there who will be compatible with you after 2 or 3 dates, or 2 or 3 years, or 2 or 3 decades. This girl wasn't right, and whatever happened, it's over.

For the most part, I agree.






Although, the girl in question still sounds like a flighty bitch.

Granted, I'm used to this particular treatment. Most of the girls I've dated sound similar to this girl in their fickleness. There are plenty of things men don't understand about women, but one thing women seem to either not understand or just simply ignore about men is that they usually prefer closure.

She could've saved herself a lot of trouble by simply leaving a text message that said something to the effect of... "I had a change of heart, and I'd really appreciate it if you'd stop calling me or texting me. Sorry."

It sounds like common sense for the guy to assume the closure, but you'd be surprised how little you can assume in this sort of thing oftentimes. Without closure, some guys enter stalker mode.

That being said, I personally tend to be the one to create my own closure when a girl is somewhat evasive. It might be pessimistic and maybe kind of dickish, but if a girl doesn't return my call the first time around within like a day or two, I just assume she's moved on.

There have been occasions where I was wrong in my assumption, but under those circumstances, you can only be pleasantly surprised rather than let down.

In short, just lower your expectations.... 😉

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