OK, so no one is going to take the opposite side here and "downplay" fore (five, six, seven) play. Ok.....leave it to me then.
First a disclaimer...
*I AM NOT SPEAKING OF ANY ONE IN GENERAL. MERELY STATING SOME FACTS ABOUT THE SUBJECT. I AM NOT ATTEMPTING TO "PUT DOWN" ANYONE, SO DO NOT LASH OUT AT ME IF YOU DO NOT LIKE WHAT I SAY*
second disclaimer
*SOME OF THE THINGS I SAY WILL BE A LITTLE NASTY! IF YOUR NOT USED TO ME TALKING LIKE THIS, PLEASE AVERT YOUR EYES OR AT LEAST TAKE A DEEP BREATH OR TWO BEFORE READING*
Alrighty then, let me continue.
Foreplay is fine. But honestly many women I have been with like it, but not more than 10 minutes worth. They would rather have 2 hours of actual sex, then 45 minutes of foreplay then a 15 minute romp. I mean why get them all worked up, only to be done with half the gusto used in foreplay.
Some men can not last more than the 2-5 minutes of sex, or some do not have the "instrument" to give orgasm after orgasm without the use of "pre-stimulation".
I for one do not use a lot of foreplay, 5 to 10 minutes tops. Why? Foreplay for me might lead to tickling and if it does....then I fall into that 2-5 minutes because I aroused myself during that foreplay period as well. If I do not have any tickling foreplay and I limit the length of regular foreplay, then I have no issue lasting the 2 hours necessary to make my lady never want long foreplay again. This has been my experience. The ladies I have been with have told me point blank, they would rather have the long sex than the long foreplay.
Don't get me wrong, some foreplay is NEEDED. After all its hurts an awful lot trying to insert into a woman that has not gotten a little hot and wet. I'm a little larger than normal (especially for my height) so without some foreplay I have injured myself more than once when the woman just wanted to "get at it" without any foreplay.
Now can I make a woman orgasm without having sex? Of course, I mean as long as know her, and her body anyone should be able to give a multiple orgasms everytime. In fact when I first had sex with my now ex-wife she told me I was the first to give her multiple orgasms...(fortunately for me I hear that a lot)...and even now that we have split up she has once or twice told me that is the part she does miss of me...the sex.
Basically, to me, when it comes to foreplay....there is only so long you can play nintendo with nipples, caress body hollows and play human lollipop. If you want to have great sex, have great sex. You want great foreplay, have great foreplay.
And please, lets not get into the "Well I can have 2 hours of foreplay and then 2 hours of sex."
Granted there have been times where I have been able to have foreplay, orgasm in the middle of it, continue foreplay for another 30 minutes until Im ready to go again...and then have a long 2 hours of sex...but come on, we need sleep and have other things to do (especially if you have children) you can not always devote 4 hours to sex. So I compromise and do what ever she feels like that evening. As long as I get some fun the next time.
Can someone say footjob!
I can.
Rob