Guy friends

[Snail Shell]

Every woman has them. These are the guys that listen when she calls to vent about stuff.

The guys who remember every detail about her life.

The guys who are always a reliable ride to the airport.

The guys who bring over the pint of Ben and Jerry's, with spoon, when she calls about her latest break up.

The guys who sit with her and watch the latest romantic comedy starring Sandra Bullock and Bill Pullman, and even paid for the popcorn.

The guys who go into all of the boutiques and fashion stores and give honest opinions about what she trying on because her boyfriend wouldn't set foot in a place like that.

The guys who make her feel better about anything, great or small, important or trivial, sad or happy, simply by talking, listening, being honest, being there for her and giving the best hugs anyone could ever ask for and asking for little, if anything in return.

Every woman has them.

So, to the women, I ask: What makes a good guy friend? Who's your best guy friend? How did you meet? What do you do together? Would you ever consider your guy friend for a romantic relationship?

And to the men, I ask: Are you a guy friend to anyone? Who? Do you enjoy it? Do you ever wish it was more than a platonic friendship? What do you feel you get out of the friendship?

I look forward to responses. 🙂

Snail Shell

 

[xSamanthax]

This will probably sound kind of cliche...but my hubby *is* my best guy friend, lol. My best friend, period, actually. He's my rock, what can I say?

 

[Helena]

Hi Snaily,
What's new? I have an answer to your question. I speak only for myself, though. LOL
I am presuming that the man friend in question is heterosexual, only because you ask if I would consider him as a boyfriend.
Lemme review:

• Brings over Ben and Jerry's
• Listens to my problems
• Gives fantastic hugs
• Takes me to chick flicks
• Gives me an honest opinion about clothing to help me look my best
• Asks for very little if anything in return
• Has the ability to make me feel better about my problems

I think a man that cares for me that way would steal my heart in about five nanoseconds.

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

Mmm I have two very close male friends, they crack me up at nearly every opportunity, its a mad house when we get together silly noises made etc.

Mostly its good at knowing they are there well one in particular more so than the other, I've helped him out with relationship problems and he's very supportive to me too.

I love these two they are such joy to be around and lift my spirits when needed, just with a silly gesture, word or cuddle etc.

There is no physical attraction as they are gay, but mates I love to death and wouldn't want that to change.

 

[chicago]

Actually, my boyfriend is kind of that guy, so it would suck if we broke up lol

 

[Saeria]

I really tend to get along better with men therefore i like to have guy friends as much as possible. For some reason i just have more in common with men. Maybe it's because i'm all pervie and crude like. I don't expect my guy friends to do girly things outside of letting me vent from time to time. I can't say i couldn't have feelings for a guy friend but i don't pursue them. I let things happen as they do. I think because of the way i am, most guy friends of mine would have too hard of a time seeing me as anything other than a friend.

 

[Gothika]

I really tend to get along better with men therefore i like to have guy friends as much as possible. For some reason i just have more in common with men. Maybe it's because i'm all pervie and crude like. I don't expect my guy friends to do girly things outside of letting me vent from time to time. I can't say i couldn't have feelings for a guy friend but i don't pursue them. I let things happen as they do. I think because of the way i am, most guy friends of mine would have too hard of a time seeing me as anything other than a friend.

sorry for quoting the whole thing but u r a great friend and a great person

 

[Tortuga]

"Every woman has them.

So, to the women, I ask: What makes a good guy friend? Who's your best guy friend? How did you meet? What do you do together? Would you ever consider your guy friend for a romantic relationship?"

I cant' just have ONE best guy friend. I think I have quite a selection, and everyone of them I think of them in a different way.

Snaily: Your a best guy friend because your adorable, very easy to talk to, and I love your sarcastic wit, it makes me have a christmasy giggle lol. We met at Nest, and I can't explain how happy I am to have met you finally. I'd love to spend time with you constantly but there goes that damned thing called long distance. And what girl doesn't have a crush on you?

DVNC: Your a best guy friend because your so down to earth, honest, and caring. I can almost talk to you about anything, your very much like a big brother. I lurve your scary ass!

ASUTickler: The obvious reasons...your my boyfriend....your a rhino....enough said lol

 

[Capnmad]

And to the men, I ask: Are you a guy friend to anyone?

Yup! 🙂

Who?

To whom ain't important besides the answer "my lady friends". Of which I suppose the count would be currently four with whom I have this privileged standing. Lord knows I didn't go and see the "Sex in The City" movie on my own. 🙂

Do you enjoy it?

Absolutely.

Do you ever wish it was more than a platonic friendship?

"Ever" with any of the women to whom I've been the guy friend -- that's a different issue. "Now"? No, not currently. They're all delightful people and under different circumstances, maybe there would be more latitude in my answer, but the role I fill is an important and irreplaceable one the dynamics of which would change dramatically with romantic involvement. And then you lose the import of the role because it's changed, and the needs and expectations change.

It's like, you don't call the doctor to fix a clogged drain... I have no interest in being the doctor currently, with any of my friends. I'm cool as the plumber, y'know?

What do you feel you get out of the friendship?

Same thing I get out of many roles wherein I try to help: Internal reward, maybe some insight. Hopefully they get the same. It's a cool place to be.


Good question, Snail.

 

[Saeria]

sorry for quoting the whole thing but u r a great friend and a great person

Aww you're so sweet! It makes me want to pop open your skull and make a pie out of your brains! See, prime example as to why guy friends are the most awesomest!

 

[penny lane]

So, to the women, I ask: What makes a good guy friend? Who's your best guy friend? How did you meet? What do you do together? Would you ever consider your guy friend for a romantic relationship?

To me a good guy friend has the same qualities I would look for in a female friend- Someone I can be myself with. I can confide in them- the good, the bad, and the ugly. Someone who'll listen to me, and offer advice when needed. Someone who always has my back and best interest at heart.

I have two good guy friends back in my home state. One I met through a mutual friend, and he's a great friend, but I would never consider him for a romantic relationship. The other I dated very briefly until we decided we were much better off as friends. Again, a great guy, but I would never go back to dating him.

And I have to say my current boyfriend is becoming one of my best friends in addition to being a great lover. I love ya, babe!

To answer your last question, "What do I do with my male friends?" Well, a lot of the same things I would with my female friends....going to movies, going out for dinner or drinks, watching college football. However, I would never subject any of my male friends or boyfriend to an afternoon of shopping for clothes, or a Sex and The City viewing party, or anything considered "too girly".

 

[Snail Shell]

Snaily: Your a best guy friend because your adorable, very easy to talk to, and I love your sarcastic wit, it makes me have a christmasy giggle lol. We met at Nest, and I can't explain how happy I am to have met you finally. I'd love to spend time with you constantly but there goes that damned thing called long distance. And what girl doesn't have a crush on you?

I can't think of how my NEST would have gone without you either hun. Distance stinks, it's true. As for the crush thing, I can think of a few who don't.....

I suppose I should answer my own question. I'm a guy friend (sometimes a backup boyfriend or surrogate top) for a number of girls. Each one is special to me for a different reason. For example, Tortuga is one of the girls I'm a guy friend for. She'll always be special to me because she was the first (and so far only) girl I had a one-on-one tk session with.

There are times, I'll admit, when I look for more than a platonic relationship with my gal friends, but you can never have too many friends and eventually, everyone runs across someone they like that way. 😉

Good answers everyone!

Snail Shell

 

[KrazieDog]

Are you a guy friend to anyone? To everybody. I'm the one everybody runs to with problems, joyous news, etc. They know they can call in the middle of the night, for no good reason other than to just hear a friendly voice and I'll be there to listen. I don't think there is this big magical draw about me at all, I just listen to people. I listen when people speak, remember little things, and am compassionate when they're hurt and overjoyed when they have great news. I always thought that's what friends did. Apparently not all do. It has gotten more than a few guys pissed at me, even though nothing was going on, but people have to have someone to turn to when they have no one else to share a happy, sad, confused, angry, etc moment with, why not be you. 🙂

Do you enjoy it? I always do. I enjoy a connection with people, whether it be the platonic friendship, the always flirty but never more relationship, a serious talk, a cry, a laugh, or just being with that friend that you can do nothing but hang out and talk all night about not a damn thing with and have a blast. That's real. More than just going through the motions.

Do you ever wish it was more than a platonic friendship? Sometimes, sometimes not. I see the best in them sometimes when they think they look or are acting like their worst. It's usually then, when they are at their most honest, no walls up, just being themselves. Unfortunately, that person that they run to, is usually not the person they think of to date, and then don't recognize it until it's too late.

What do you feel you get out of the friendship?Friendship plain and simple. Someone who can trust me enough to lean on me in their time of need, or call just share something silly is solid gold in my book.

 

[StevePerry4Ever]

I always hate that guy. 😡

 

[asutickler]

ASUTickler: The obvious reasons...your my boyfriend....your a rhino....enough said lol

Aww... Thanks hon. 😀

 

[tickleshotel]

I have many guy friends and each one of them is special to me in their own way ,some of them have known me for years and others are fairly new to my life . I think about them on some level every day ,and have as much correspondence as I can with them according to how much availibilty they have to chat and when best times are convenient as I am not a morning person,I am a night owl but I do make time for all my guy friends to have a one on one conversation . NO I am not going to say who they are , that is our own private business.
The qualities my guy friends all possess is honesty , a wonderful personality that is warm affectionate good listeners being there for me when I need to vent ,be happy when I have great news to share as well as being vocal giving me thought to ponder,make me laugh by telling me jokes or how they are going to tickle me as well as telling me the truth whether it is hurtful or not and most are all protective of me .
I have met the majority of my guy friends from this wonderful forum and I bless the day that I am able to spend time with them,give a hug,cuddle ,laugh together ,spend quality time and not only say how much they mean to me each one of them but also show them with my actions . Nobody I care about and love in my life has to wonder,ponder how I feel about them as I express myself openly deeply in alot of ways .
I do have other guy friends I have that know about the tickling,the forum and everything about me and I met them through my travels when I used to drive cross country before I was on the forum and have alot of respect ,love for them as friends,hard workers and many I met at truck stops for coffee ,a few have come to my aid when my car had a flat tire on a interstate and others I don't see much at all but when we are together after a absence it feels like we were never apart as the connection is intense .

 

[steph]

TONS of great guy friends~LOVE them!
This question reminded me of that whole "when Harry Met Sally" discussion, remember? How many of them are just "acting" like my friends and have in reality put my name on their personal "To Do" list?
XOXO

 

[dvnc]

And to the men, I ask: Are you a guy friend to anyone? Who? Do you enjoy it? Do you ever wish it was more than a platonic friendship? What do you feel you get out of the friendship?

Yep. I likes my friends. I likes my friends t'stay as my friends. I've been dumb enough to cross that line, and the friendship is rarely the same. Very, very rarely, and I'm grateful for 'em.

What do I get? Friendship, goofy. I likes friendship. Makes me happy.

And I have to say my current boyfriend is becoming one of my best friends in addition to being a great lover. I love ya, babe!

Thank ya, lover. Likewise, most assuredly.

As a man who's never even seen Sex and the City, I take it on faith that I'm better off without. 😉