Has anyone ever been bullied & how did you deal with it?

[Comfort Eagle]

For a little bit, in Middle School. Then I got tired one day and beat the shit out of the guy in the bathroom. In front of a fairly big crowd. For about 5 minutes.

And that made me cool. Nobody ever said shit again.

So it's kind of like prison. You know, without so much rape.

 

[Mephistopheles]

For a little bit, in Middle School. Then I got tired one day and beat the shit out of the guy in the bathroom. In front of a fairly big crowd. For about 5 minutes.

And that made me cool. Nobody ever said shit again.

So it's kind of like prison. You know, without so much rape.

Yeah, rare outbursts of violence do create status. When I was in highschool I took care of the people who tried to pick on me (like throwing M&Ms at me and my friends) by beating the crap out of them. Afterwards there were no problems at all with the people involved.

 

[Comfort Eagle]

Yeah, rare outbursts of violence do create status. When I was in highschool I took care of the people who tried to pick on me (like throwing M&Ms at me and my friends) by beating the crap out of them. Afterwards there were no problems at all with the people involved.

Which sounds like a horrible lesson to teach, "solve problems with violence"; but hell, can't argue with results.

Just be sure they won't bring a gun.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

There's going to be bullies everywhere in life. The key is learning how to handle them without it affecting you.

It doesn't just happen with teenage kids, it's an adult thing too.

 

[sean901]

There's going to be bullies everywhere in life. The key is learning how to handle them without it affecting you.

It doesn't just happen with teenage kids, it's an adult thing too.

Yep. Theres too many people that mistake kindness for weakness.
Too many people that think that because someone is nice, and good natured, that they will be an easy target to offload some hateful shit.
Big mistake my friends

 

[Excess]

Yep. Theres too many people that mistake kindness for weakness.
Too many people that think that because someone is nice, and good natured, that they will be an easy target to offload some hateful shit.
Big mistake my friends

Kindness IS weakness though! Don't see the glass as half empty or half full, see it as half drunken or half too lazy to fill it up.

 

[Sandrock74]

I don't equate being a pacifist with being a coward. However, pacifists only exist because someone else beat up all the bullies, which allowed them to be pacifists and kindhearted.
Violence (or sometimes, the mere threat of it) does solve problems. It's just the nature of the beast.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

The best way to fend off bullies in high school: Stand at 6'2" tall, weigh 240 lbs and play tight end for the varsity squad.

 

[giantfan121262]

The best way to fend off bullies in high school: Stand at 6'2" tall, weigh 240 lbs and play tight end for the varsity squad.

I was bullied because I was big, and, as unacceptable as bullying is all around, it's even less forgiving when you are big. When there is a kid being bullied by someone twice his or hers size usually a casual observer would think something to the effect like, "why doesn't he pick on someone his own size" . When you are big, people would say to YOU "Why don't you kick his ass? You're a big guy". Generally I didn't kick his ass because I didn't believe in fighting (and still don't). The way I eventually dealt with the bullying was standing my ground as I got older (and more confident in my ability to defend myself). One day, I thought I would put an end to the bullying all together in gym class. When we did wrestling in class, I asked the teacher to match me up with the bully. I knew I would beat him, and I would put him through some pain in the process. Through the whole match I had my way with him, and at the end, he kicked me in the groin. What did the teacher do? He looked the other way as if nothing ever happened. After class, I took him back into the wrestling room, and, let's just say, I took care of business.

And trust me, I had no problems at all after that incident, TRUST ME!

and for the record, today, I stand 6'4" 245, and I did play tight end for the football team all throughout HS.

 

[sean901]

Kindness IS weakness though! Don't see the glass as half empty or half full, see it as half drunken or half too lazy to fill it up.

Well, if someone were to take that glass and stick it in your face,(I'm just speaking metaphorically here by the way) that would be their nice side moving over for their not so nice side, if you get what I mean.
So some people can be perceived as weak because they are nice, and kindhearted, but actually when put into a corner, can turn into your worst nightmare.

 

[Mephistopheles]

Which sounds like a horrible lesson to teach, "solve problems with violence"; but hell, can't argue with results.

Just be sure they won't bring a gun.

People generally don't have guns here, that's more an American problem. Some have knives but that's no serious threat.

 

[Knot Amewzed]

People generally don't have guns here, that's more an American problem. Some have knives but that's no serious threat.

That sounds like paradise, Meph! I wish I lived in a country free of guns, with the exception of my 18 inchers of course!!!....lol

Cheers!!!

 

[Knot Amewzed]

I was bullied because I was big, and, as unacceptable as bullying is all around, it's even less forgiving when you are big. When there is a kid being bullied by someone twice his or hers size usually a casual observer would think something to the effect like, "why doesn't he pick on someone his own size" . When you are big, people would say to YOU "Why don't you kick his ass? You're a big guy". Generally I didn't kick his ass because I didn't believe in fighting (and still don't). The way I eventually dealt with the bullying was standing my ground as I got older (and more confident in my ability to defend myself). One day, I thought I would put an end to the bullying all together in gym class. When we did wrestling in class, I asked the teacher to match me up with the bully. I knew I would beat him, and I would put him through some pain in the process. Through the whole match I had my way with him, and at the end, he kicked me in the groin. What did the teacher do? He looked the other way as if nothing ever happened. After class, I took him back into the wrestling room, and, let's just say, I took care of business.

And trust me, I had no problems at all after that incident, TRUST ME!

and for the record, today, I stand 6'4" 245, and I did play tight end for the football team all throughout HS.

I was merely attempting to be sarcastic, but I see your point.

I sincerely feel that deterring bullying depends on the way one carries themselves. It is my opinion that bullies usually target individuals with a lack of confidence or who appear defenseless.

 

[badreligion]

Yea in high school this guy used to bully me and finally i had enough and stood up to him and challenged him to hit me and he wouldnt he just backed down and that was the last i heard from him

 

[xionking]

I was merely attempting to be sarcastic, but I see your point.

I sincerely feel that deterring bullying depends on the way one carries themselves. It is my opinion that bullies usually target individuals with a lack of confidence or who appear defenseless.

Yeah, so it's pretty much a downward spiral. You target a kid who's already down, the kid's just gonna get worse and the bully's gonna feel more powerful.

The world'll keep on spinning until that timid, unconfident, emotionally affected kid with little pride or self-esteem builds up enough courage to kick the bully's ass in gym class??

I really dunno...

-Xionking

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Yeah, so it's pretty much a downward spiral. You target a kid who's already down, the kid's just gonna get worse and the bully's gonna feel more powerful.

The world'll keep on spinning until that timid, unconfident, emotionally affected kid with little pride or self-esteem builds up enough courage to kick the bully's ass in gym class??

I really dunno...

-Xionking

Wow, you got all of that from reading my post? That was not my point; your translation is wrong.

Confidence and strength can come without "kicking someone's ass".

 

[xionking]

Wow, you got all of that from reading my post? That was not my point; your translation is wrong.

Confidence and strength can come without "kicking someone's ass".

Lol, nah, Man. I just used your quote as a basis for me to ramble. Are you really 6'2?

-Xionking

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Lol, nah, Man. I just used your quote as a basis for me to ramble. Are you really 6'2?

-Xionking

Gotcha!

No, I am 6'3".

 

[xionking]

Gotcha!

No, I am 6'3".

Sheezz, I'd be surprised if anyone in the day had the guts to fight ya, even if they were bullying you!

I'm only 5'10...I reckon I could take ya

-Xionking

 

[Knot Amewzed]

Sheezz, I'd be surprised if anyone in the day had the guts to fight ya, even if they were bullying you!

I'm only 5'10...I reckon I could take ya

-Xionking

lol

I found myself to be in only one fight all throughout high school (with the exception of our ice hockey games) and was not suspended for it. The kid was picking on one of my friends who barely spoke English (from Uraguay); I told this bully to leave him alone. The bully then proceeded to suggest that I fuck my mother; I suggested that he eat a set of knuckles.

The principle actually called my mother and told her of the incident, but explained to her that I had a hell of a right hook...true story. The principle then handed the phone to me, my mother really laid into me, but then asked if I had won the fight. "Won?", I retorted.."I hit him once and he was unable to hit me back."

 

[DimpleToes]

I dont believe in violence but I will deffend myself and everyone has that right. If someone touches me un-invited you bettcha I am gonna try to lay them out somehow. I have done it before- few yrs ago. Gave a guy a black eye with his own hand at a bar for touching me sexually. I may be nice and sweet but dont piss me off, you wont like what you see.

I believe those who bully others do it for they need to feel bigger or stronger in the eyes of those around them. It is a huge front for the insecurities within themselves.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

I want to thank everyone for their responses so far. Bullying doesn't just come from kids, adults do it too. It's bad enough when kids do it, but it's even worse when teachers do it too. I mean when teachers do it, it makes it seem to the other kids that it's okay to bully, when it isn't. The teachers who bully are a disgrace to their profession. The best way to handle bullies is to tell a parent or someone you trust. Also, stay in a group because bullies will be less likely to bother you. Also, I feel bad especially for the kids that have severe disabilities who are just not able to stand up for themselves, so someone HAS OR SHOULD stand up for them.

I look down on anyone who makes fun of anyone who has a disability and it's not just because I have one myself. Although, I don't think people should bully anyone. When it comes to bullying sometimes the only way to stand up for yourself is to become violent as some people have said.

People should remember that bullies are really cowards, that's why they target people who they feel who are different or weaker than they are in some way.

 

[Tckleme]

I´ve been bullied for a very long time, and I´ve become some kind of a misanthrope now. I hate most of you, but what I hate most is myself. Don´t know if that´s because of the bullying or because of the sick stuff I´ve been through...or maybe both.