Interracial Relationships What do you think of them?

[Angel_2]

Hi Everyone! I just have a question that I have been wondering and wanting to get an idea as to what you think of Interracial Relationships. Me and my Girlfriend get along great, we love doing things togther and we have fun all the time. Yet we both can't get over the fact that most people(some we know and others we don't know at all) don't like that fact that we date each other. Now myself being white and my girlfriend being black have no problem with it at all in fact we love it. Its just sometimes I get mad at some of the dirty looks people tend to give us when we walk down the street or just sitting doing nothing at all. For example I was walking my girlfriend home one day after a movie and along the way at least 3 people gave us a mean and dirty looks. At the time we did not think much of it at all but after some time we started to wonder why they do it. I just want to know what you think of Interracial Relationships and why people don't like it. Some of my friends have told me that it is better to stay within a certain group and I could not disagree more with them. I just need some advice on what to do. I know I should not care what other people think of it but I can't help but wonder. Thanks for any and all advice you can give and please do give your take on the issue and tell if you like it or not. BTW just so everyone is clear I am NOT trying to start anything. I just want you to be truthful and open but please show Respect while posting. Hope you enjoy this and I look forward to your replys.

 

[MrMacphisto]

The simple answer to your question is that people suck. They have to find a way to harass or annoy others for whatever reason. Interracial relationships are highly visible things that don't require any thought to ridicule. People see something different from the norm, and they attack it. I wouldn't worry too much about it, but I know that's easier said than done when it's a daily occurrence.

 

[tulipangel]

LOL! Some people are DUMB! Who cares who is black and who is white? Next thing you know its going to be like "Oh NO, I cant date you.... You have red finger nails"! Look, If you let the dirty looks get to you then they won (even though they dont know they won)! They dont like it? Whatever! If you go home and all you can think about is "Gosh, all those dirty looks cause im WHITE and your BLACK!" then maybe you need to rethink your relationship! No matter where you go and what you do people give nasty looks! Heck, I dated a guy who was skinny like a rail and im a big girl... People looked at us with the "why the hell is he with her" look all the time! We didnt even talk about it! Those looks DONT matter! So, you can live life with her and care about what the world thinks and have to be bothered asking this question (which I think is a question that should be addressed) OR you can ignore the MORONS in this world and be happy with her (which I think you said you are)! Have a great life! It pisses people off more when your happy!

 

[steph]

Right. We all bleed red. It's not your COLOR that colors you in my eyes, it's how you treat others that matters to me.

XOXO

 

[Mitchell]

Really, the most important thing here, I think, is yours and your girlfriend's happiness. If you two love each other, and are happy, to hell what people think!

Mitch

 

[Tamia78]

Metsfan......

My friend, I totally know how you feel. Wonderful to hear about you and your gf, and I hope things continue to do well for you guys. I have dated outside my race many times and have found interracial dating to be a very postive experience. Sure, there's the rude stares and outright audacity of people who think it is their right to correct your behavior (as if you are doing anything wrong), but just remember that there's alot of stupid people in this world, and you choose who you let get to you. The way other people feel about you and your gf isn't going to change the fact that you two really like each other, is it? Of course not!

My opinion on interracial relationships is that it doesn't matter who you're with, as long as you guys get along, who cares, right? You can't help who you fall in love with.

Best of luck to you both!

--T

 

[Mastertank1]

The human species

has only one race in it; the human race. It comes in a wide variety of shapes, sizes, colors (and flavors). So do dogs, cats, and horses. So what?
Those who get upset when they see interracial couples are mainly motivated by jealousy and envy. Many of them have no one at all, or someone so clearly inferior to you and your GF, that they are consumed with envy. Those are probably the source of the most obvious glares and grumbles. Most probably come from rednecks (another group that comes in all colors), which is funny.
The only relationships I consider truly interracial are the kind rednecks have with their sheep!

Mastertank1

We who play and dance are thought mad by they who hear no music.

 

[BellaRisa]

I've been in an interracial marriage for 13 yrs now, and my OSO is of a different race as well. Ignore the fools and live your life, love is too precious to lose over ignorance 🙂 .

Bella

 

[Mitchell]

Mastertank, most eloquently put, and I couldnt agree with you more.

Mitch

 

[Redmage]

I said this on another thread, in a different context, but it applies here as well: Criticizing love is the biggest waste of human energy imaginable.

 

[Aragon]

I don't understand why race has to be an issue ever. I live in an area it does, but I never understood it at all. I think women are beautiful no matter what. I look at everyone as equals and that is how my family raises all of us. My grandmother is the only oddball I know of, though she's learned to keep it to herself.

 

[asutickler]

I'm reminded of the movie "Bulworth," in which the title character said:

"We need a voluntary, free spirited, compatible, open ended program of procreative racial deconstruction... Everybody just got to keep f*cking everybody till we're all the same color." 😀

 

[Angel_2]

Thanks Everyone

You guys and gals really helped me out. I know I should not care what other people think about me and my gf and to tell you the truth I don't but like I said in my first post I have had my friends come up to me and tell me that they think I should stay within my group. Now I don't agree with that at all in fact I love interracial relationships. Not to long ago I went to a friends home for a BirthDay party and I had my gf with me. On the way as we walked down the street people just kept looking at us funny and I am sure in there head they said now what is she doing with this white guy? Anyway at the party it was ok we had fun but I got the feeling everyone was uneasy b/c me and my gf were the only Interracial couple in the house. No one made a sceen but you could tell some people were not happy about us. Now I don't care what they think but I do wonder why there is so much hate when it comes to Interracial Relationships? I just wish people could understand. 🙄
Thanks again to everyone that answered and if you have anything else to add please do.

 

[slacker2114]

I think it's way overdue to re-classify people since no one seems to be able to survive without grouping people one way or the other. Instead of having black people, white people etc., I prospose these classifications:

People who have their heads stuck up their ass and still haven't realized that it's not the color of your skin that makes you who you are, it's your actions.

People who simply can't mind their own fucking business and insist on sticking their noses in other people's affairs.

People who try to get along with others, despite race, class, religion and so forth and don't give a shit what the ignoramuses from the above categories think of them.

Anyway, don't let other people bother you or interfere in your relationship. Just think of them as just being jealous.

 

[Mastertank1]

Don't wanna

I'm reminded of the movie "Bulworth," in which the title character said:

"We need a voluntary, free spirited, compatible, open ended program of procreative racial deconstruction... Everybody just got to keep f*cking everybody till we're all the same color." 😀

Hijack the thread or nuthin, but man, where can i buy one o' them give a fuckometers?

Mastertank1

We who play and dance are thought mad by they who hear no music.

 

[Mz Chaos]

There ain't a damn thing wrong with mixed relationships. The way I look at it, I wouldn't let a few looks from complete strangers bother me any. After all... they mean nothing while your lady means the world and all to you. If strangers don't like what they see... they don't have to look.
Here's wishing you loads of happiness for many years to come.

 

[new2sceenbob]

You are very lucky

You are very lucky that you found someone with whom you can have a happy relationship. Not everyone is so fortunate. I truly wish you and your girlfriend the very best of luck. It sounds like you have made a really good start. If you gave up this woman just to find someone of your own race, then there is no guarantee that you will ever find someone who would make you as happy as she can...

Sincerely,
Bob

 

[kis123]

What???

Interracial relationships??

Oh, that's terrible!
It's awful!
Who's idea is that?
Why do they have to "mix" like that?
It's bad for the culture!
You're watering down the races.......

These and many more racist, stereotypical, and basically stupid sentences brought to you by uptight, closed-minded jackasses who can't have a thought without someone else's approval!

Once you clear all the pressure and negativity, there is one bottom line question: Are you two happy with each other? Is there a connection? Is there a future? That's what matters.

Don't get me wrong, I love my race along with all of our problems, issues, and faults. I love being a black woman even with the negativity it sometimes entails. I love black men as well and still think there is beauty regardless of the struggle. But I seem to "connect" differently with other races and am pretty much a "united nations" type of chick when it comes to dating. I'll date virtually any race-there are only a couple I wouldn't be interested in because of their cultural/societal norms.

My daughter told her high-school principal she was mixed with so many races, she's starting her own culture! 🙂 She is the human conbination of a black mother and a Greek/Armenian father. Not to mention many generations of previous race-blending between her parents.

The next time someone says something to you about crossing racial lines, tell them to start shaking their family tree and see what starts falling out! The results will amaze them!

 

[TicklishLurker]

Interracial, you say? Mm - I don't know, Klingons and humans don't get along so well. Now Vulcans and humans often work.

As for the kind you're talking about - what's the big deal? Long as it's not kids, animals, or dead people, it's no one's business who you date. Anyone who has a problem with it is obviously a moron.

 

[The Sean Man]

It still staggers me that our society has come so far in many ways....yet skin color is still a problem

 

[kis123]

Oh, I forgot about my personal favorite (used by my mother, I might add)....

"What about the children??"

I have a million of them you know!!

I could post at least a hundred of the stupid comments I initially received. I was told the marriage wouldn't last because of racial differences. The marriage didn't last because we weren't meant to be married, not because of the racial/cultural differences. He gave me a beautiful daughter and someone my son could call "daddy." He was helping me raise my son long before our daughter got here. He's a decent man, just not the man for me.

I wish you and your girlfriend all the happiness in the world. If you don't remain together, don't let it be from the ignorance of others. And stop worrying about the stares, whispers, and stupid comments and just love that sista'!!!

 

[TicklishLurker]

Interracial relationships??

Oh, that's terrible!
It's awful!
Who's idea is that?
Why do they have to "mix" like that?
It's bad for the culture!
You're watering down the races.......

These and many more racist, stereotypical, and basically stupid sentences brought to you by uptight, closed-minded jackasses who can't have a thought without someone else's approval!

Heck, you don't even have to be dating the person to be treated badly. My mom's best friend happens to be black. (She prefers that term to "African American" because she feels the latter suggests she's not a real American. Plus she's worked with people from Africa before and they treated her like crap for "not being dark enough.") We went to visit her - now with the exception of my dad we're all pretty fat. The three of us ladies all weigh over 200 pounds. Because we were three white people with one black lady, every time we went into a restraunt we were sat at the smallest of tables hidden in a corner, ignored by the servers, and just generally treated like crap. While groups that were either all white or all black were put at larger tables, even if their group was smaller, served much more timely, and got refills on their drinks almost instantly.

Whatever happened to "Love thy neighbor" and "Judge not least ye be judged"?

 

[Angel_2]

Thanks

Thanks Everyone you all are great. The more I think about it you guys and gals are right it dose not matter. If some people are not happy about it so be it. There is just one thing, My gf's family is not to happy that we are going out right now. They like me and all but they are not happy that I am my girls boyfriend. This gets me upset. Now I am not a perfect person no one is but I try to do the right thing. I am upset at the fact that they think I am not good enough for their daugther. I don't express my anger b/c my parents always said if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. What do you think I should do. Thanks again.

 

[Redmage]

It's possible that they don't like you because of your race. If I were guessing though I'd put that at the bottom of the list. More likely, there's either something about you personally (the kind of work you do, your politics, whatever) that they don't like. Or they may be worried about auxilliary racial issues, such as "What will the rest of the family think?" or "What about the children?"

Or it might be something as vague as "How could a white man really understand our daughter?" The might even be working from a vague uneasiness about interracial relationships left over from their youth, and not even be aware of it.

If you can, find out why they're upset. They may have told their daughter, or they may tell you if you ask them. Once you have a handle on the problem then you'll be in a much better position to go about solving it.

 

[new2sceenbob]

You're probably right

You're probably right in refraining from giving your girlfriend parents the tongue lashing that they no doubt deserve. It's just that little good can come from arguing with her parents. You won't change them, and your girlfriend will just end up in the middle of the animosity between you and them. I know how hard such self-restraint is, and I can't even swear that I could do it myself under these conditions, but I'm sure that it's the best course of action. Just try your best to amiably stay out of their way. That's the best advice that I can give you. Again, I wish you the best of luck...

Sincerely,
Bob