Perspective is subjective...
Perspective is subjective... and perception is everything to many. I've a long commentary for you, Neutron. I hope it carries the respect I have for you.
Personally, I don't entirely agree with you. I cherish my sexuality. I cherish my intimate interactions. I couldn't give a flyin' **** about my job, as I can get another with relative ease (and have, repeatedly).
Mind you, I agree with the perspective Myriads adds. I don't sweat much of anything, really, and, similar to you, I don't worry about my interest in this. Thus, I agree with you in parts.
My interest in tickling is, like yours, not a major focus for me. Where it's higher than "a good movie", "a book, or playing a sport," it's lower than other considerations for me. You and I, sir, are not the norm, here. Many here have a much stronger interest, clearly. I know I used to, once. I can see where, when reading your reply, posted earlier, I would find it insulting, were I of such perspective as to place major focus on my sexuality. Most of the planet DOES, after all. Why do you think it's such a big damned deal to most? Why do folks care if someone HASN'T got THEIR interests? Why bash gays, deride deviants, and ridicule the sexually deficient?
'Cause it's important to many. Just not to you, or to me.
If I were to read your post, without having read so many others, I would likely take it as conflict of perspective, rather than your declaration that this interest is of minor importance to you. I noted your confidence in your own feelings on things early on, though.
That's where we differ, sir. The interest is of greater importance to me in other ways. While I don't hold this interest as personally compelling, I have many friends from here, from gatherings across the U.S.A., and can still clearly remember when it WAS that important to me. I've a sympathy with the folks that feel that way. After 5 years of gatherings, which have been monthly for the last 3 years, the familiarity of this interest has been made much more "common". Lovers experience this after having been married for years. Folks that haven't yet lived with a lover for years oftn look on disbelieving when hearing this, yet it happens to nearly everyone.
As I interpret the response to your post, it seems to me that it's not your perspective of yourself that could offend some, which is actually rather confident and laudable. It's the statements made, by you, to the readers. Starting with the impression of telling others how to be, by use of "you" instead of personal ownership (stating such as "I") and ending with your stating, "Again, suck it up, be a man, and just say it," you set anyone feeling differently in a situation where they would mistake your post as a confrontation, rather than an opinion.
Given your support of Myriads' comment, I figure you were just giving your two cents, and not startin' anything.
Even Myriads needed correcting, though, by your followup post. Even he apparently didn't follow it completely. I suspect I, too, may have misinterpreted it. If so, there's a likelyhood of others that did. If so, hopefully this provides a more neutral perspective.
I respect where it's not so important, for you, Neutron, and where others feel the same. That's a sentiment that's part of your "wiring". You're the folk I'll generally never meet, physically. Gatherings require enough interest to postpone other activities to attend. You clearly have it good already. I hope to have it so good some day. 😉
The variety of folks, here, is wide enough that there's people on many differing degrees of focus. Some must agree with you, and some must not. Some, like me, understand and still disagree.
It's all good, though,
dvnc
