Kitten, don't you worry your sweet little head about any of this. I'm sure once this thing happens, and i hope it does, i'm sure those who have concerns will look back and wonder what concerned us. Those who know you know you aren't doing this to exlude, but just a friendly gathering. A girls night out, if you will. Best of luck with it kitten.
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"All Girls Gathering" Am I the only uncomfortable one?
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gigglegal76
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I think this party is a great idea for us women. I know that there are women on here who are skeptical about attending a party because they're afraid that the guys will just flock all over them. This party is just to get to know other females who share the same passion, to hang out and have a good time. Us girls like to get away for a night to hang out with our friends. There's nothing wrong with that!!!
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I guess I'd like to put my two cents worth in here, too. I've met Viper and Irishgirl5 and they are a neat, young couple......yes young. Maybe there is some growth to come yet and maybe not. One thing I do know is that Viper did not have a problem with other people tickling Irish....as long as he was nearby. He didn't need to be part of it, he wasn't hovering, he just wanted to be close. There is nothing wrong in his feelings or concerns when this is a part of his relationship with Irish and he wonders if other men,whose gf/wives might attend, are concerned too. He's simply sparking a discussion, which is what this is supposed to be about.
At the same time, being married for 28 years, I fully understand that there is a very definite NEED for women to be together without men. Women have an inbred need for close, female companionship and friendship. I would never deny that to any lady. It is part of what makes them different...and more fun 😉....than men. If they want to have touching/tickling fun as well, that is also very much a part of women. How often do we see women of ANY age hugging or embracing each other in friendship as opposed to men doing so with each other? I know of one lady who is really hoping to be there BECAUSE: 1) she is relatively new to gatherings and will feel better in a ladies-only environment (she is hetero) and 2) she doesn't want to wait until next April or May for NEST!
While I understand Viper's, and other's, concern, I think the event will demonstrate that there was no cause for the concern after all. Kitten, I still think your idea is grand and wish all of the TMF ladies attending great success and friendship.
I guess I'd like to put my two cents worth in here, too. I've met Viper and Irishgirl5 and they are a neat, young couple......yes young. Maybe there is some growth to come yet and maybe not. One thing I do know is that Viper did not have a problem with other people tickling Irish....as long as he was nearby. He didn't need to be part of it, he wasn't hovering, he just wanted to be close. There is nothing wrong in his feelings or concerns when this is a part of his relationship with Irish and he wonders if other men,whose gf/wives might attend, are concerned too. He's simply sparking a discussion, which is what this is supposed to be about.
At the same time, being married for 28 years, I fully understand that there is a very definite NEED for women to be together without men. Women have an inbred need for close, female companionship and friendship. I would never deny that to any lady. It is part of what makes them different...and more fun 😉....than men. If they want to have touching/tickling fun as well, that is also very much a part of women. How often do we see women of ANY age hugging or embracing each other in friendship as opposed to men doing so with each other? I know of one lady who is really hoping to be there BECAUSE: 1) she is relatively new to gatherings and will feel better in a ladies-only environment (she is hetero) and 2) she doesn't want to wait until next April or May for NEST!
While I understand Viper's, and other's, concern, I think the event will demonstrate that there was no cause for the concern after all. Kitten, I still think your idea is grand and wish all of the TMF ladies attending great success and friendship.
Viper darling...How does Irish feel about your feelings?
And I'm with Ann, BTW~it's not always sexual for everybody. Nothing of the sort ever goes on at our parties, it's just good old fashioned fun...I'd like to see you release yourself of this, esp if she's not going. She loves you, that's obvious. I'd try not to worry if I was you.
XOXO
And I'm with Ann, BTW~it's not always sexual for everybody. Nothing of the sort ever goes on at our parties, it's just good old fashioned fun...I'd like to see you release yourself of this, esp if she's not going. She loves you, that's obvious. I'd try not to worry if I was you.
XOXO
venray1 said:
ROTFLMAO!
Talk about dead on! Right you are, Ray!
I say "You GO ,girls!". Hope you have a blast!
Couldn't us guys have a gathering as well? Now, I'm talking about hitting a casino for the weekend, or gong to a ballgame, then out to eat. More like a Munch, no actual tickling (unless you're sitting next to a cute girl at the Roulette table, and can convince her you need to tickle her for luck) 🙄
Ray, Jeff, and Ann (as well as some others ) make sense. No harm, no foul. Just let it go.
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Oooookay, I wasn't going to post, since it seems to either stir up controversy or place a target on the poster, but <deep breath> here goes. I, too, felt the sophomoric pangs of "something wrong" when I read of the all-gals gathering, and yes, my g/f is among those considering attending. After doing what I consider to be the mature thing, discussing it with her, I came to a few realizations: 1) that it stemmed from the aforementioned concept that tickling was something intimate and shared with my gal to me, even when just playful or at a mixed gathering. Even if I wasn't the one tickling her, or being tickled by her, I was there and sharing in her experiences. 2) It also had to do with some baggage I had with feelings of exclusion and outsidedness from childhood through today. Immature? Probably. Should I know better at 35? Yup, but that's the 'shameful' truth, some folks aren't as mature as they should be, if some posts hadn't pointed that fact out by now. Now, after this discussion, my fears and discomfort were allayed, and I am wholeheartedly supportive of this event. Safety wasn't an issue for me, since I know the folks who are trying to organize it. I'll still miss seeing her have fun and the cameraderie they'll have, but that's fine. Hopefully, this is the healthy route I've taken, and it perhaps will help others shed some light on their feelings, with their version of it, or trying to understand others'.
Smiley,
we now return you to your previously scheduled insanity
Smiley,
we now return you to your previously scheduled insanity
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Many people posting in this thread have neglected to mention a critical detail:
Viper came here and spoke honestly, without editing himself. He also asked what others felt. That in itself is a very mature act.
How many men his age would do that?
Female Wrestler also voiced her opinions openly and honestly--perhaps a bit too strongly. I wish others had been as charitable to her as they were to Viper. If we cannot speak honestly here, what is the point of having a forum? I hope Female Wrestler will continue to speak out.
I agee with her on a key point: Gatherings for women only are very important, as we men can be too alpha-aggressive. Many women have the self-awareness, confidence, and poise to let men know when to tone it down--but others do not.
Many people have said that what tickling means to one person is not necessarily what it means to another. Viper and Irish are a couple, and while I think it is a good idea to air an issue related to tickling here (since they cannot possibly ask friends outside the community), whatever they decide is whatever they decide. It really is not for any of us to judge
The one piece of advice I will give them: If it is a problem, talk it out from the heart. It would be wonderful if human beings of all ages were textbook perfect in every situation, but then, of course, we would not be human. If Viper and Irish love each other, they do so with full knowledge of jealousy, human faults, and difference of opinion. Love lasts when people know how to work through that.
Viper came here and spoke honestly, without editing himself. He also asked what others felt. That in itself is a very mature act.
How many men his age would do that?
Female Wrestler also voiced her opinions openly and honestly--perhaps a bit too strongly. I wish others had been as charitable to her as they were to Viper. If we cannot speak honestly here, what is the point of having a forum? I hope Female Wrestler will continue to speak out.
I agee with her on a key point: Gatherings for women only are very important, as we men can be too alpha-aggressive. Many women have the self-awareness, confidence, and poise to let men know when to tone it down--but others do not.
Many people have said that what tickling means to one person is not necessarily what it means to another. Viper and Irish are a couple, and while I think it is a good idea to air an issue related to tickling here (since they cannot possibly ask friends outside the community), whatever they decide is whatever they decide. It really is not for any of us to judge
The one piece of advice I will give them: If it is a problem, talk it out from the heart. It would be wonderful if human beings of all ages were textbook perfect in every situation, but then, of course, we would not be human. If Viper and Irish love each other, they do so with full knowledge of jealousy, human faults, and difference of opinion. Love lasts when people know how to work through that.
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I see vipers point...
There are places set up for "Only Women" all the time, such as gyms and clubs and organisations. Here in Toronto there is a thing called "Take Back The Nite" were women get to gether and march through the streets at a very late hour to protest violence againt women. However when several men tried to join in and show suport for this cause thay were basicly told to go to hell.
To tell you the truth Viper, I would not be cool with my girlfriend going to an all girl Tickle gathering because some involved in running it are probably women of an ulternet lifstyle. Anyone who doesn't beleave that women won't sexualy abuse other women should get the movie Jade (or is it Jaded) it is based on a true stroy about two women who sexualy abuse a 3rd on a beach after they meat in a bar. It's like Dileverence for Girls.
All I know is that if guys wanted to do some sort of "Men's Only Club" women would be freaking out over it. An no I wouldn't want to go to an all male tickle gathering.
There are places set up for "Only Women" all the time, such as gyms and clubs and organisations. Here in Toronto there is a thing called "Take Back The Nite" were women get to gether and march through the streets at a very late hour to protest violence againt women. However when several men tried to join in and show suport for this cause thay were basicly told to go to hell.
To tell you the truth Viper, I would not be cool with my girlfriend going to an all girl Tickle gathering because some involved in running it are probably women of an ulternet lifstyle. Anyone who doesn't beleave that women won't sexualy abuse other women should get the movie Jade (or is it Jaded) it is based on a true stroy about two women who sexualy abuse a 3rd on a beach after they meat in a bar. It's like Dileverence for Girls.
All I know is that if guys wanted to do some sort of "Men's Only Club" women would be freaking out over it. An no I wouldn't want to go to an all male tickle gathering.
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If nothing shady is going on why not alow the boyfriends to watch. Have a gathering were both m and f can attend but only the f's take part. If every thing is on the up & up, then there is no harm in having the guys there to enjoy it as well.
If nothing shady is going on why not alow the boyfriends to watch. Have a gathering were both m and f can attend but only the f's take part. If every thing is on the up & up, then there is no harm in having the guys there to enjoy it as well.
Slaver, i don't think you have to worry about anything shady. It's just going to be a girl get together. Part of the reason for this gathering is it to take place without the presence of males, so what your suggesting runs counter to the aim of the original idea. While, i don't know all then people who are going, from what i know abou the people who are going, there should be no concerns. I admit i'm also not quiet sure what you mean by "shady". If you mean girls tickling girls, then yes that'll probably happen. However, i don't think any of the girls are going to let any of the others hurt or harrass somebody. Frankly, this gathering seems more casual then anything.
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I have read your posts and I'm glad you used the word "ridiculous" because thats what this is, it's ridiculous that you feel this way simply because some girls decided to get together and talk about the thing they love, it's ridiculous that you feel cheated on if your girl decided to go, and it's ridiculous that you feel threatened by it as well. When I first entered this post I thought you were a girl feeling nervous about going, instead your a guy feeling left out. Get a puppy man and get over it, your going to find in your life a lot of things your being left out of, so get over it or go under that's what I say.
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the heman women haters club is born once again
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I don't really see what all the fuss is about...I'm not around the TMF a whole lot anymore and I didn't know about a girls gathering or website... not that I don't think it's hot, and as a female I see nothing wrong with it at all... if there are girls here in relationships with guys who are uncomfortable with the idea, then that should be between you and you guys should talk to them and tell them why you feel weird about it, and come to a mutual agreement either to have her go or not go. If I felt the person I loved was really uncomfortable with such a thing I wouldn't go either.
Think of it this way, if some of the guys wanted a m/m gathering for gay/bi-curious guys only then you probably wouldn't hear too many girls or straight guys complaning about not being invited 😉 but since many straight guys here are interested in f/f tickling then they feel left out and want to be a part of the fantasy. I would think the whole point is to finally have something where the guy doesn't have to be involved in the fantasy or in the reality, to just have fun with the girls. Guys, I know you can talk about stuff with your guy friends that you might not discuss in female company...it's the same way with women. We get together and just have fun and talk about girl stuff that we might not be comfortable saying in front of a guy, especially a guy we didn't know. But girls (even who don't know each other) can bond very quickly over things that only girls really would understand. Same concept as slumber parties as a young girl, mostly it was just staying up late and giggling and talking about BOYS...but we didn't actually want boys there because it would be embarassing to talk about that stuff in front of them 😉
Let the chicks do what they want, and if one of them is your girl and you're concerned, you need to talk to her about it instead of posting your concerns on the forum.
Think of it this way, if some of the guys wanted a m/m gathering for gay/bi-curious guys only then you probably wouldn't hear too many girls or straight guys complaning about not being invited 😉 but since many straight guys here are interested in f/f tickling then they feel left out and want to be a part of the fantasy. I would think the whole point is to finally have something where the guy doesn't have to be involved in the fantasy or in the reality, to just have fun with the girls. Guys, I know you can talk about stuff with your guy friends that you might not discuss in female company...it's the same way with women. We get together and just have fun and talk about girl stuff that we might not be comfortable saying in front of a guy, especially a guy we didn't know. But girls (even who don't know each other) can bond very quickly over things that only girls really would understand. Same concept as slumber parties as a young girl, mostly it was just staying up late and giggling and talking about BOYS...but we didn't actually want boys there because it would be embarassing to talk about that stuff in front of them 😉
Let the chicks do what they want, and if one of them is your girl and you're concerned, you need to talk to her about it instead of posting your concerns on the forum.
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I'm really disappointed in some of the members of my gender, as well as some of the members of this forum.
First of all, I just took a look at the unedited version of this thread in the admin area and some people apparently just aren't capable of having a discussion without throwing around insults and name-calling. It's childish and inappropriate, and I'm a little appalled.
Second of all, I find it almost impossible to believe that anyone can have a problem with some of the girls wanting a night to themselves. Normally I can see everyones point of view, even if I disagree with it. But here I'm completely out of the loop, I just cannot wrap my head around this at all. If women want to have a night away from the testosterone, leering, and being objectified, I say more power to them.
And to be blunt, the guys who say they just want to watch, if they're actually serious about that, would be the first ones on my list of guys who shouldn't be allowed within a hundred yards of this thing.
I could understand maybe, maybe, feeling a little left out by this, since men are in fact being left out of it, but that's where my sympathy ends. Thinking that this is somehow wrong or that guys have a "right" to be included in this is just so far out there that I can't even lay eyes on it.
And it has nothing to do with how much tickling I see, to respond to that specific point that was raised. It has everything to do with respecting peoples right to live a life apart from my own, to do things that happen not to include me, and even to choose to exclude me if they want to, which I don't think is happening here anyway.
First of all, I just took a look at the unedited version of this thread in the admin area and some people apparently just aren't capable of having a discussion without throwing around insults and name-calling. It's childish and inappropriate, and I'm a little appalled.
Second of all, I find it almost impossible to believe that anyone can have a problem with some of the girls wanting a night to themselves. Normally I can see everyones point of view, even if I disagree with it. But here I'm completely out of the loop, I just cannot wrap my head around this at all. If women want to have a night away from the testosterone, leering, and being objectified, I say more power to them.
And to be blunt, the guys who say they just want to watch, if they're actually serious about that, would be the first ones on my list of guys who shouldn't be allowed within a hundred yards of this thing.
I could understand maybe, maybe, feeling a little left out by this, since men are in fact being left out of it, but that's where my sympathy ends. Thinking that this is somehow wrong or that guys have a "right" to be included in this is just so far out there that I can't even lay eyes on it.
And it has nothing to do with how much tickling I see, to respond to that specific point that was raised. It has everything to do with respecting peoples right to live a life apart from my own, to do things that happen not to include me, and even to choose to exclude me if they want to, which I don't think is happening here anyway.
It's true I wouldn't mind watching. I buy F/f tickling videos because I want to watch. Guess I shouldn't buy those videos anymore...
But I certainly wouldn't go where I'm not invited. Again I have no problem with a 'Girls Night Out'. They're lucky. As a man apparently I can't even calmly express an opinion without being attacked because of my gender. If some of my male friends attempted to create a private club, it's possible they'd be taken to court.
It just seems a bit hypocritical to me. That's all.
But I certainly wouldn't go where I'm not invited. Again I have no problem with a 'Girls Night Out'. They're lucky. As a man apparently I can't even calmly express an opinion without being attacked because of my gender. If some of my male friends attempted to create a private club, it's possible they'd be taken to court.
It just seems a bit hypocritical to me. That's all.
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Well, I'm not with you.
Women are creatures I truly can't understand at all, and when they come together they tend to do things true to their nature which rubs the fact that I can't understand them at all in deep.
Women are creatures I truly can't understand at all, and when they come together they tend to do things true to their nature which rubs the fact that I can't understand them at all in deep.
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Personally I think it is an excellent idea.
The fem fatales' getting together for fun, hysteria and trading ideas for future plans of dastardly tickle attacks on their significant others.
They may all come out of there hell bent on tickle evilness
TTD
The fem fatales' getting together for fun, hysteria and trading ideas for future plans of dastardly tickle attacks on their significant others.
They may all come out of there hell bent on tickle evilness
TTD
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Amazing!
I have been reading the posts on here and find it absolutely amazing that we are even discussing this. Trust me, being a 46 yr old heterosexual female, I certainly don't plan on "getting it on" with a 20-something girl thats going to be there. Especially since if I go I will probably be the oldest member there. I agree that tickling is an intimate thing and if I had a significant other I could kind of understand the feelings shared in here. But it also can be a playful, stress relieving way of showing platonic affection which is what alot of you guys like to stress in the forum. Believe me, I have been excluded in alot of things in my life because I have always been big, including sleep-overs with friends. I understand the hurt of not being included but I quietly made a scene in private. I certainly don't resent Ann's couples gatherings even though I am not with someone. It just seems that this whole thing has been blown way out of proportion over the girls wanting a night to spend together. Geeesh.
I have been reading the posts on here and find it absolutely amazing that we are even discussing this. Trust me, being a 46 yr old heterosexual female, I certainly don't plan on "getting it on" with a 20-something girl thats going to be there. Especially since if I go I will probably be the oldest member there. I agree that tickling is an intimate thing and if I had a significant other I could kind of understand the feelings shared in here. But it also can be a playful, stress relieving way of showing platonic affection which is what alot of you guys like to stress in the forum. Believe me, I have been excluded in alot of things in my life because I have always been big, including sleep-overs with friends. I understand the hurt of not being included but I quietly made a scene in private. I certainly don't resent Ann's couples gatherings even though I am not with someone. It just seems that this whole thing has been blown way out of proportion over the girls wanting a night to spend together. Geeesh.
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Very well said 🙂 He needs to grow up.
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Amen sister!! I have felt the same way in the past. I am really looking forward to this girl's night out. I don't have very many female friends and it'll be nice to meet some...especially females who are into tickling!!
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